Better Sex 4 Life

Want Better Sex? 4 Tip's!

2008-12-25T13:25:00.002-05:00

Tip # 1: Adult Video

Adult Movies are a helpful method for spicing up your sex life. Whether or not you have a partner, watching adult films can certainly assist you in improving your skills as a lover, but many of the how-to videos and DVDs are extremely educational from a scientific standpoint. Many feature commentary by medical doctors and licensed sex therapists, who offer invaluable knowledge about how the male and female body functions during sex. In addition, you are often able to view real couples putting lessons they learned into practice, which serves to demonstrate that we are all capable of having satisfying sex lives. Also to keep a well-sexual relationship.

Tip #2: Fellatio A.K.A Oral

Fellatio is the technical term for oral sex performed on a man. Its root is from the Latin verb meaning “to suck.” For many men, oral sex is a more intense experience than intercourse. This is due to the concentration of stimulation to the penis by mouth, tongue, and hands. Each man has different areas of concentrated sensitivity, so it’s important for a man to communicate what is pleasurable to him during oral sex. If he is not comfortable speaking out loud about his needs, he should gently guide his lover either with his hands or let her know when she’s doing the right thing by making some oral indication such as telling her he likes what she’s doing or sometimes even just a moan will send the message! Work your magic and see the change!

Tip # 3: Prolonging Pleasure "Make It Last"

As a general rule, the longer the stimulation, the larger the release. This is true physically as well as mentally. In order to prolong pleasure during lovemaking and prevent male orgasm from occurring too soon, it’s important to start slowly. Even just talking to each other about the sex you’d like to have is a turn-on, and can initiate arousal. Once you begin to touch, you may wish to begin with a backrub or deep kissing before moving to intercourse. Once you do begin making love, you can also bring a man back from the brink of orgasm with a squeezing technique. Just prior to his orgasm, put your thumb on one side of the base of the penis and the tips of your index and middle fingers on the other side, then squeeze.

Tip # 4: Sensual Massage "Touchy Feely"

Sexual technique is not always about doing super tricks in bed "Superman/Superwoman. Much of lovemaking occurs before the act of intercourse even begins. In part, knowing how to be a good lover means knowing how to touch. Sensual massage is a wonderful way to connect to your partner, and to learn what feels good to him/her. It is also a very bonding act. Three basic types of massage can be practiced. There’s a general soothing massage, where you simply use oils or lotion and gently rub your lover’s body head to toe. In a body to body massage, you use your own body to assist in the massage, sliding up and down his/he back, using hair, nails or even playful bites. Some massage sessions may progress to masturbating your partner as part of the rub-down. Pay attention to your partner’s reactions as you massage or establish ahead of time what type of massage you will give/receive so that both of you achieve the maximum pleasure,drive and the outcome.

Top 10 Sex Positions

2008-12-22T00:55:00.003-05:00

Tip # 1: Woman On Top/ The Rider

Sometimes a woman wants to take charge during lovemaking. When a woman sits or lies on top of her partner, this is called the "Female Superior" position. And it can be superior for everyone involved! In Female Superior positions, the woman is able to better manipulate penetration to facilitate orgasm. This is a perfect position to stimulate the G-Spot, in fact. Lean your torso forward and arch your back, keeping yourself close to the base of his penis. Try rocking back and forth (not bouncing up and down). Squeeze your P.C. muscles once you've got a nice rhythm going. Another option is to lean back and place your hands on his thighs. This time, move up and down along his penis. At this angle, you'll get great stimulation of the G-Spot. And your partner gets a great angle to watch your pleasure.

Tip # 2: Missionary Position

The most common sex position is the man-on-top "Missionary" position. Many may think this is a boring position (and it can be!) but it provides many positives as well. First, there is a better chance for intimacy in this position. You and your partner are able to look each other in the eyes as you make love. Also, women often find this position optimal for clitoral stimulation, either by hand or by close connection with her partner's pelvic bone as he penetrates. You may be surprised to know that women have a lot of control in this position. Elevating the hips makes for deeper penetration, and swiveling them in rhythm with her partner's thrusting creates a more intimate and pleasurable experience.

Tip # 3: Flower Position

A variation on the Missionary position is the Blossoming Flower. In this position, the woman lies on her back and lifts her legs up. With her legs spread and open in this manner, she takes on the appearance of a flower in bloom. She can grasp under her knees for better leverage, as well. This is an excellent position for deep penetration, easy access to the clitoris, and face-to-face intimacy between partners. Long periods in this position may create kinks in the woman’s legs, but since the woman’s hands are free, she can always use them to massage her legs while penetration occurs.

Tip # 4: Butterfly Position or The Wing

One of the sex positions that was touted as “revolutionary” a few years ago is the Butterfly. It’s a bit tricky since proper alignment is necessary. The location needs to be a place where the woman’s pelvis is about a foot lower than the man’s. This could be a tall bed, desk, countertop, even a large exercise ball. The woman lies back while the man stands in front. (If the surface is very low, he may be able to kneel instead.) Now, the woman lifts her legs and rests her feet on her partner’s shoulders. She tilts her pelvis up so that he back becomes straight and forms a straight line, angling up toward the man, and both crotches meet. The man can place his hands just under his partner’s hips so he can hold her at the perfect angle while he thrusts. In this position, the pelvic tilt is ideal for G-Spot stimulation and deep penetration. An excellent tip is not to rush this one. Use a lot of lubrication and go slowly. With so many sensations going on, the orgasm that follows will be momentous!

Tip # 5: Push-and-Pull Position

In the Pressed Position, the man is very much in control. The woman lies on her back, with her legs together. She lifts her feet and presses them to the man’s chest. This position offers a good deal of friction. The man can grasp his partner’s hips to aid in thrusting. He needs to pay attention to her comfort level, however, as this position can be uncomfortable at certain angles or if continued for a long period of time. A variation of this position is the Half-pressed. Here, the woman leaves one leg free, letting it rest to the side or placing it on her partner’s shoulder. Better access to the clitoris is experienced, and it’s also a nice way to change up the position without stopping rhythm.

Tip # 6: Pair of Tongs

This is a great woman-on-top sex position if you and your partner want to turn things around, literally! In Pair of Tongs, the man lies back and the woman faces opposite him. There’s plenty of variation in this position. The woman can lie back and lift her hips slightly, giving her partner room to thrust from underneath. Or, she can sit up and control penetration herself, not to mention clitoral stimulation. It’s a great opportunity to introduce sex toys like vibrators into the act as well. The woman can use them on herself as well as her partner. One word of warning for women: Keep in mind a man’s comfort and pay attention to how far forward you bend!

Tip # 7: Doggie-Style

No matter what you call this rear-entry position, it's a popular one for G-Spot stimulation. The man stands or kneels behind and vaginally penetrates the woman who is typically on all fours. Men like this position, as it offers a new and exciting view of their partner. He is also able to control penetration by grasping his partner’s hips. Women have perfect access not only to their clitoris, but to her partner’s testicles as well. Many men love to be stroked or even squeezed in this area as they thrust. Women with back problems should be careful not to arch their back too much. Men can assist by not pulling upward on their partners’ hips. As it is with many positions, it’s best to go slowly when entering from this angle. Also be sure to use plenty of lubrication.

Tip # 8: On The Side

A lovely and intimate sex position is On the Side. In this position, you face each other while lying on your sides. Think of Missionary position turned to a 90-degree angle. The woman can lift her top leg over her partner’s hips, allowing him to enter her easily. Variations are endless here. Either or both of you can lift up on your elbows for leverage. You can even angle back down 45 degrees, for more friction. This position doesn’t allow for much clitoral stimulation, but that is easily fixed: The man stays lying on his side, while the woman lies perpendicular to him, draping her knees over his hips (or, if she spreads her legs, her knees actually rest on his waist/ribs and thigh, respectively). This is a fantastic position for clitoral stimulation and mutual control of penetration. And it’s a great for when neither of you really feels like “being on top”!

Tip # 9: The Spoon or The Dip

We all know The Spoon to be a nice way to cuddle, but it makes an excellent sexual position as well. Both man and woman lie on their sides, the woman facing away from the man. The man enters from behind. If the woman keeps her legs closed tightly, there is better friction. She can even bend her torso forward and anchor herself so that she can offer a little resistance during the thrusting, which increases penetration. However, she can certainly lift her top leg for easier access to the clitoris. Her partner can even hold her leg up so that it won’t get tired and/or as an anchor while he thrusts. Not surprisingly, this is a popular morning sex position, as couples awaken and get snuggly.

Tip # 10: Hiding in the Crevice

In this sex position, the woman lies on her belly, and the man lies on top. Some women may find it more comfortable to have a pillow underneath them. Legs are kept straight, and the man enters from behind. For men with longer penises whose partners have trouble accommodating them, this is a great position, as the woman can squeeze her buttock and P.C. muscles, giving the illusion of having a longer vaginal canal. The man can lift himself up slightly and kiss or blow on his partner’s back for added stimulation. Both partners’ hands are free for interlacing fingers or light touching, which makes this a very intimate position even though you are not face-to-face.

Yoga Moves For Better Sex

2008-12-22T00:31:00.002-05:00

Today yoga lovers are finding that more time on the mat means more--and steamier--time spent reveling in their newly toned bodies. To take a walk on yoga's carnal side, add these sex moves to your yoga routine for overall better sex. Or just do them by themselves to turn up the heat.

Flex Time Is Sex Time

Having more flexible muscles and joints definitely helps in assuming those compromising positions. Opening your hips in particular gives you a wider range of motion in your nether regions, allowing for more direct stimulation in just the right spots. After all, one micro-movement in missionary is sometimes all it takes to ring the bell.

Sex Rx: Bound Angle In a seated position, bring the soles of your feet together, put your hands on your ankles, allow your knees to relax toward the floor, and hinge forward at the hips as far as is comfortable. Hold for 10 to 15 complete breaths (inhales and exhales).

Power Up the Pelvis

Strengthening one key muscle helps you engage and lift the pelvic floor, bringing you more sensation and control during your sex moves.

Sex Rx: Root Lock Seated or standing, contract and then release the pubococcygeus muscle located between the pubic bone and the tailbone, as if you wanted to stop the flow of urine. You can even do this at your desk, say, 10 times at three workday intervals.

Sex Goddesses Go the Distance

Shake-the-headboard sex moves are hard work. "The better shape you are in, the more pleasure you have and the longer you can do it,"

Sex Rx: Yoga Pushups Start in the pushup position, arms extended. Engage your abs as you lower your body slowly toward the floor. Stop when your torso is about 2 to 3 inches away. Keeping elbows in, hold there for five breaths, then lower to the floor. Repeat three times at first and build up to five.

Tip's That Can Help!

2008-12-22T00:12:00.002-05:00

Tip #1: Employ behaviour-training techniques

If he's doing it all wrong and won't respond to unspoken directives, take a tip from dog trainers, who know all about reinforcing good behaviour and punishing the bad. Respond positively only when he does something that feels good and give consistent signals (pull away, reposition yourself, go silent) whenever he tries a move you don't enjoy. Resist the urge to emit encouraging moans or to fake arousal — it only compounds the problem and leads him to think he's making you happy.

Tip #2: Teach by example

Show him how you masturbate, placing his hand over yours so he can feel and see what you're doing. Alternatively, while he's manually stimulating you, put your hand atop his and guide him. When he learns a physical technique by feeling, as opposed to being told, he's more likely to remember it and after time he will master it.

Tip #3: Take tips sex videos

Find an erotic video with foreplay you find horny and watch it with him. When someone onscreen does something you'd like him to do try, say ''I bet that'd feel amazing.'' Let's try it! It's also an idea to leave magazine articles containing smart sex tips lying about, with key bits circled. Put the open mag next to the bed and hope he reads it rather than the sports section.

Tip #4: Give him some instruction

Ask him to help you act out a fantasy that has a teacher/slave component. As the dominant party, you can tell him to do all the things you want but he rarely gives you — and make him repeat them until he gets it right. Once he sees how aroused you become, he might decide to incorporate the techniques you've taught him into his bedroom and proceed.

Tip #5: Teach him about ambience

Set a mood, using sexy music, soft lighting, aromatherapy oils, sensuous fabrics and the like. Offer him a massage as it will help you both to feel more sensual and sexy . Once he realises that simply altering the environment can put you in the mood for sex, he'll be motivated to create similar surroundings next time he wants to get you into bed.

Tip #6: Talk dirty

''I'm a big fan of dirty talk and research suggests that the majority of men are too,'' says sexologist and author Dr Gabrielle Morrissey. ''Men love specific feedback, but blunt criticism hurts their feelings and they may never do X or Y again.'' Instead, she advises, ''Be sexy but be specific — that way, you're more likely to get what you want. You can be romantically explicit or just plain filthy, whatever you're more comfortable with, but do say desiring things because men love having their sexual egos stroked, just as girls do.''