Tip's That Can Help!

Tip #1: Employ behaviour-training techniques

If he's doing it all wrong and won't respond to unspoken directives, take a tip from dog trainers, who know all about reinforcing good behaviour and punishing the bad. Respond positively only when he does something that feels good and give consistent signals (pull away, reposition yourself, go silent) whenever he tries a move you don't enjoy. Resist the urge to emit encouraging moans or to fake arousal — it only compounds the problem and leads him to think he's making you happy.

Tip #2: Teach by example

Show him how you masturbate, placing his hand over yours so he can feel and see what you're doing. Alternatively, while he's manually stimulating you, put your hand atop his and guide him. When he learns a physical technique by feeling, as opposed to being told, he's more likely to remember it and after time he will master it.

Tip #3: Take tips sex videos

Find an erotic video with foreplay you find horny and watch it with him. When someone onscreen does something you'd like him to do try, say ''I bet that'd feel amazing.'' Let's try it! It's also an idea to leave magazine articles containing smart sex tips lying about, with key bits circled. Put the open mag next to the bed and hope he reads it rather than the sports section.

Tip #4: Give him some instruction

Ask him to help you act out a fantasy that has a teacher/slave component. As the dominant party, you can tell him to do all the things you want but he rarely gives you — and make him repeat them until he gets it right. Once he sees how aroused you become, he might decide to incorporate the techniques you've taught him into his bedroom and proceed.

Tip #5: Teach him about ambience

Set a mood, using sexy music, soft lighting, aromatherapy oils, sensuous fabrics and the like. Offer him a massage as it will help you both to feel more sensual and sexy . Once he realises that simply altering the environment can put you in the mood for sex, he'll be motivated to create similar surroundings next time he wants to get you into bed.

Tip #6: Talk dirty

''I'm a big fan of dirty talk and research suggests that the majority of men are too,'' says sexologist and author Dr Gabrielle Morrissey. ''Men love specific feedback, but blunt criticism hurts their feelings and they may never do X or Y again.'' Instead, she advises, ''Be sexy but be specific — that way, you're more likely to get what you want. You can be romantically explicit or just plain filthy, whatever you're more comfortable with, but do say desiring things because men love having their sexual egos stroked, just as girls do.''